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How We Overcame Grief - A True Incident
JOSHNA SANGEETHA JOHNSON |
The righteous perisheth, and no man layeth it to heart: and merciful men are taken away, none considering that the righteous is taken away from the evil to come.
2 He shall enter into peace: they shall rest in their beds, each one walking in his uprightness- Isaiah 57: 1&2.
This was the message left by our daughter Leena Chris. She marked those verses in red ink in her Tamil Bible. Did she know that she will die as a child?
We lost our only daughter Leena Chris aged 9 years on 10th May 2003. She accidentally fell into a sump in her grandmother's house. She was there since May 5th and we had planned to take her back home on 10th evening when the tragedy struck our family. The accident happened around 3.30 pm. We fully understood the plight of others who lost their children in accidents. But life has to carry on... There was a feeling of emptiness in our family. And that was the toughest time in our life for my wife and myself, to live without our precious little daughter.
I would pick her toys, her dress , her photos and keep them close to my heart and cry! I would wake up in the middle of the night and cry aloud. My wife is a prayer woman who felt the untimely death of our child as the will of the God; and she prayed in tears everyday. She would console me daily mentioning how Job lost his ten children (as told in the Bible) and got back everything in double fold! Hope of my wife getting pregnant began to die as a leading gynaecologist told my wife after examining her through various test reports that she could never conceive under normal circumstances!
Nothing is impossible for God. He heard our prayers and my wife conceived again -after 10 years.
In all the scans we took doctors told that the baby would be a boy. We were totally disappointed as we felt that a boy could not fill the place of our daughter. And we also kept Leena's clothes hoping that it would be a girl. My wife gave birth to a baby girl on July 1,2004.What a great miracle and what a great God we have in Jesus!This is another miracle! She looks like my first daughter Leena Chris. Now,we tell everyone what the good Lord has done to our family.
This real incident I hope would give peace and new hope to many of you who have lost their precious ones. Also, I can quote other cases like N.L.Hariharan, founder-president of Cross Blood Foundation, Chennai (www.crossbloodfoundation.com) who lost his five year old son to blood cancer and K.Parameswaran of ONGC, Nagapattinam who lost all of his three children in Tsunami (details in www.nambikkai.org.in) They too have been comforted by JESUS! There are hundreds of promises in the Bible for us to claim in prayers and to get them.
"Prayer brings victory"and it's true that God answers early morning prayers.
You may be a person of different religion or an atheist, but a prayer with an open heart seeking the help of Jesus will surely be answered. No one except Jesus can give you the "peace" to overcome any kind of grief. Now ours is a happy family. God Bless You!
Tuesday, December 30, 2008
Problems facing Teenagers and Parents
In the age of Internet where speed dating and live-in relationships calling the shots in metros, more conflicts between man and woman in love are bound to break hearts than what we saw earlier.
Educated youths with comfortable jobs and plenty of income on hand are quite unable to handle stress when it matters most like job loss, denial of promotion, love failure, death of a loved one, impotency etc.
Caught in a time warp, alarming number of women commit suicides due to stress. Parental care is required to support at the time of distress.
Sorry, We Don't Have Time!
Modern lifestyle has working couples to earn good income. But the question is do they have enough time to spend with their kids? Sadly, work pressure and place of work often keep children away from parents for longer hours.
Do the parents know what their children are watching or with whom they are talking to? Earning money and high-end career are the goals of most parents who admit on the sly that they don’t spend enough time with their children but have to do so for the sake of their children.
Children are mostly addicted to computer games that show violence and death. Logging on to the Internet in the absence of parents there are plenty of explicit sex sites popping up on screen appearing due typing errors. Children on such occasions never bring it to the notice of their parents fearing parents would block their Internet access.
Children and Internet
Statistic show that many children visit social networking sites like Orkut, Facebook, Twitter, Linked-In etc daily. These social (anti-social?!) networking sites may be renamed as social sexworking sites. Anyone can become a member and chat with the opposite sex, discuss their fantasies, indulge in virtual sex, find partners etc.
Many parents even do not know how to operate a DVD player! A former English teacher disclosed to me that it is my son studying in eigth standard who operates the DVD system and even my husband, a Chief Public Relations Officer in a public sector undertaking does not know!
With these kind of unwanted videos available as free content in the internet, the minds of schoolchildren are likely to be dangerously polluted.
Not only that, children now prefer computers for company. They are hooked to games for several hours without having food! They also tend to lose human contacts in real life. This irresposible behaviour of parents is the main cause for the strange social behaviour of their boys and girls at a later stage.
Mobile Phones Hidden Inside Panties!
In one of the leading schools in Mogappair in Chennai that churns out many state rank holders and also the one labelled as the strictest schools to enforce discipline among students was shocked to catch hold of four girls of standard six using mobile phones inside the school premises.
The girls hid the mobile phones inside their panties and kept them in vibrator mode. As soon as the phone rings, girls feeling the vibrations seek permission from their teacher to visit the restroom.
However the vigilant school management has female helpers to keep an eye on students visiting restrooms at unusual times. A girl was caught red-handed talking to someone from her mobile phone. That girl spilled the beans which lead to three of her friends landing in the net.
Immediately the parents were summoned to the school and were asked to collect TCs. This incident, luckily has not got media attention since the whole thing was brushed under the carpet.
It is also an accepted fact that present day children are very intelligent in studies and extra-cultural activities. They are capable of doing many things at a time with considerable ease.
Out of school and out of college, children armed with professional degrees and adequate knowledge skills fly high on a lucrative career.
The inevitable in the job market brings colleagues, mostly of the opposite sex, closer. Available help is on hand and sharing accommodation between opposite sexes like in western world is not a big thing now.
Live-In Relationship Is No Big News In India
Live-in relationship is mostly confined to the IT sector. As long as you pay a huge rent to the building owner and look decent, no questions are asked about who you are and with whom you sleep and what takes place within the four walls.
Live-in relationship couples come out with bold statements about casual and consensual sex! This, after the relationship sours, spells disastrous for women. It becomes more painful and the lesson is learnt the hard way that no amount of money can bring back the joy.
When a woman gets married to someone of her parents' choice and if the husband comes to know of her flings and earlier relationships, life becomes hell once again.
Social inequity has left men get off the hook and escape notice of their promiscuous lifestyle.
The bad influence a child picks up in early stages and left unnoticed may lead to several ignominies at a later stage.
Tuesday, September 9, 2008
Corruption - In The Eyes of Law
Sunday, May 4, 2008
IPL Twenty20, Cricket in New Avatar
Twenty20 is a kind of entertainment in the shortest version of the game. A lot of youngsters, mostly from rural background have been able to fulfil their ambition joining the big league. It is beyond our capacity to think that sworn enemies of the game to play as a team. Twenty20 holds lots of promise to our rural and urban youngsters to rub shoulders with international stars. No one would have expected this kind of acceptance five or six years before. But Twenty20 is here to stay and would only improve with every passing year.
Conservative Indians lambast the organizers for hooking scantily clad foreign cheerleaders dancing around to entertain fans. Many youngsters have fallen in love for Twenty20 is the truth. Sooner or later, five-day test would be given a decent burial. There would be records preserved only in the archives department of national libraries for future historians to make out our lifestyle. Money, fame, jobs...continue to flow through the willow, so why make a fuss! Join the party and enjoy the fun!
Saturday, February 23, 2008
The Homeless and Nowhere To Go!
How many times have we thought about the sufferings of the homeless and why are they there?
Those people with their families come from villages to the big cities in search of employment. To live in such miserable conditions without a roof over their head- cooking,sleeping and carrying on with their ablutions in full public glare - is not enough to make your heart feel for the lesser mortals, who are also the children of the same God, is appalling.
Understandably they are being exploited by local politicians,goons,police to ask for favour to pitch their tents or sleep beside a closed shop. Men in some cases are booked under frivolous charges by the police, young women are sexually exploited and abused; babies suffer from malnutrition and children do not get education. The homeless also do not have access to medical facilities.
On the work point of view, the homeless pick up construction work and the labourers are not provided with basic needs like shelter and creche for babies. The meagre income what they get is just enough to get on with the expenses for the day, for the whole family. To keep away from their sufferings, men and women turn to alcohol. The government and social welfare organizations should come out with solutions to keep them under temporary structures and ensure their safety and well-being.
If a part of the money ear-marked for the welfare of the poor reaches the poor, the nation can become a super power within ten years!